Thursday, January 15th, 2004 [edit]
I’ve heard cautionary tales of couples who spent too much time in ‘engagement bliss’ that they had to rush around and stress out over the details of the wedding. My lady was having none of that.
We’re full steam ahead with preparations, but we’ve had to lay some ground rules.
To start with, I was getting overwhelmed and slowly becoming numb to wedding details. I have a hard time focusing on the minutia when there are still large issues to be resolved. Currently, we’ve secured a location and think we’ve found our caterer. The next big things on the list are (in no particular order) photography, florist, music, and honeymoon.
With those things on the horizon, I was having a hard time talking about things like table decorations and where the bar should go. The low point was dinner last Saturday night. We went out on a dinner date and had a really hard time finding things to talk about besides wedding things.
It was depressing. So, we talked about it. We realized that our efforts were being negated because we were preparing so continuously. Since no end to any particular session was in sight, I wasn’t able to pace myself and dedicate my attention to a project (because I was worried it would consume me).
We’ve agreed to split up the week. Tuesday and Thursday nights, between the hours of 7 and 10 PM are dedicated to wedding and wedding accessories. Weekend time (as defined as being a significant portion of one of the two days) is agreed upon in advance. Deviations from the schedule are acceptable by mutual agreement.
Who do you think will try to break from it first?
All content
Comments:
I broke, I do everyday. When you are consumed with people asking questions and needing answers or a thought might come to you, you have to consult the other person. The Groom is not consumed with this as much because he doesn’t have as many “details” to figure out. He actually I’m sure doesn’t really care about many of the details. But as a joint effort I still have to consult him when a decision has to be made. This is our day we are planning there for I want everything to be decided on together. Things like flowers and of Course the dress are not under the same rule but everything else should suit us both. And just for the record. we had plenty of other nonwedding planning things to talk about. Trust Me.
I wouldn’t classify talking about a rehearsal dinner really getting outside the realm of ‘wedding talk’.
Last night we met with a DJ. It was horrible. He talked non-stop for two hours (one hour after I told him we wouldn’t be able to afford his services). I’m hoping I can leverage that into some agreed-upon weekend rest.
Add Your Comments:
Text only, no HTML. URLs will automatically be converted to links (long URLs may be shortened to avoid breaking the layout). Your email address is required, but it won't be displayed.
Trackback URL: http://www.jasonandjessica.org/mt/mt-tb.cgi/187